i hate my husband because of his mother

A man who is close to his mother is not a mother's boy in a negative way. Thats her fault not the MILs. Should I Tell My Boyfriend About My Debt?. I agree with Wendy that caring for someone doesnt mean having to live with them and care for them yourself. I dont think it would have done much if Id hit it, but still. June 18, 2015, 10:36 am. Only in the last couple years, since she has formally disowned me and my nice sister for no good reason and stopped speaking to us entirely, have they gotten her to accept any kind of therapy, and they have run through a number of therapists. He has to form a boundary between his new family and his family of origin. I agree compassion is often the best tool when dealing with difficult people. Everytime I hear her on the phone to dh she's. So, get your own place. RedRoverRedRover You can even lead by replicating some of those times. Hate my husband. She was FAR nicer to me than LWs MIL is to her. Now that we have a toddler Ive really had to remind my husband about it. Ok. No problem. June 18, 2015, 11:04 am, That has to be so amazing to have your mom so close with your baby on the way , honeybeenicki Hate is a strong word. But its nice to have a reminder that these judgements are only taking in account face value circumstances. Nobody has said that she has an easy life, all of us understood she is having a hard time, but, I dont know, just her tone and the way she talks about the woman whos helped her and plans to ditch her, makes me feel like she is really entitled. This is particularly if he cannot seem to function without his mother. Was she not in touch with the woman? Otherwise, its bound to bring out hatred in one person. 2. Ive seen some wonderfully compassionate but at the same time get-your-shit-together blunt responses to folks who needed to be knocked upside the head multiple times, and Im not sure why those morons deserve the compassion but this lady does not. I wouldnt either (especially with her issues with falls and a newborn). If your husband treats you formally and forgets to enjoy your union, you may start hating him. Free housing! Its one thing to say Look, I see youre living in very difficult circumstances, and that the stress of that is probably clouding your judgement. Telling someone shes a bad person isnt likely to make her take the advice, but reframing the message i in a kinder (but equally blunt) way would make her more likely to take heed. You wont see such a trait when you are courting because he is a good pretender. Radical thought, I know Sigh. They force us to take responsibility for what we're thinking and feeling, which protects others from our blame, guilt and judgment." Examples of I-Statements in romantic relationships: I feel scared when it seems like your family is more important to you than I am. Start by making your husband aware of your feelings before taking other steps. If they moved in with his mom because they were always planning to buy a house with her and care for her and a medical discharge just pushed everything to happen faster, that is more understandable. I dont know the details of this promise your husband made, but to me, caring for someone can be accomplished in numerous ways. However, you should check yourself when you start drifting away from your partner. Theres a nicer way to present it. If couple activities were a part of your marriage and you stopped doing them because of busy work schedules, it may be the reason you have started to dislike your husband. Sometimes theyre just desperate to get out of their current situation without thought to what is actually the right best thing to do. June 18, 2015, 10:11 am. My parents didnt and dont see what they were doing. Or is he open to other ideas that wouldnt require your family live with her but instead using some of Wendys ideas? It could be sitting down with her and going over finances and researching programs she could apply for to help pay for this kind of care (and even contributing to that care if one is in a financial position to do so). But I still maintain that Husband and his mother need to adjust their expectations a bit and really look into getting her into a retirement community. Maybe a cut would have occured, but not anything as dramatic as the LW presents. But when my husband made the promise to always care for his mother, he wasnt married, didnt have a step-child or a brand new baby on the way. Why do I hate my husband? They often have tons of options for activities and just getting out may help her mental and emotional well being. We expect it to be a perfect partnership between two individuals in love who are ready to build a home. If hes willing to throw away a promise to his mother just because things are difficult now, what makes you think he wouldnt do the same to you? It makes sense for the letter writer not to delay graduation or accumulate debt or dip into savings during a temporary situation if they were ultimately planning on living with the MIL, anyway. She probably should have figured this out sooner but she didnt. Mike tries to be easygoing but she's a champion button pusher. Most wives hate their husbands because they hurt or offend them. It can pave the way for a better relationship. She definitely needs to be called on that. Built in babysitter/dogsitter right next door! with yourself. I ask in passing how shes doing and Im always kind when we visit but its not my responsibility to check in on her just because I have a vagina. February 24, 2017, 11:06 am. Of course this is family (a parent! Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. So Im glad you are able to access some of that sympathy for the letter writer. Possibly. It is absolutely wrong to leave her to her fate. Its another thing to tell her shes a jerk and entitled. I dont hate my MIL but we will never be close. The MIL just cant be left to care for herself. 2. Understanding why you feel resentment in your marriage is the first step to understanding the full spectrum of emotions you harbor and deciding where your. You complain, complain, complain about everything you have to do for her and how grossed out you are by her and about this horrible promise your husband made to, gasp, care for his ailing mother, but wouldnt you want your kids to show some care for you if you werent able to care for yourself and they were in a position to help out a little? Taking responsibility can help resolve some of the tension between you and your partner. . Same advice as to what she should do, but different tone. That is pretty much human decency to help your parents out as they age and cant handle everything themselves. But now I get it- Husband promised his mother to take care of her, like, physically, not just help out and such. But realistically, it sounds like it was just that you lived separately and helped her out less? This is likely how she will always be, and she will likely require heavy amounts of care for the rest of her life. honeybeenicki Its frustrating when you have tried healthy ways to improve someone, but it proves futile. It sounds like LW did not know what she was signing up for when they moved in. But, she couldnt because financially they needed her to provide a place to live. what were you doing on the counter?) It is his first responsibility to see to the needs of his wife and children, including the stepchild. Raccoon eyes If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married. Some wives say I hate living with my husband because he refuses to change some of his unpleasant habits. It isnt such a big deal, but the way she mentions it its like she flipped out about it. My husband is wonderful but he seems to believe that since his mother is willing to pay part of the bills when we buy a house that she is needed. Someone just left it carelessly, is all, and the configuration of the kitchen meant you could come around the corner without seeing it. Had she never visited her? And I still think the LW is being a jerk. Talk about sweet! As long as your partner tries their best, it would be best not harshly to criticize them. It sounds like they are all (MIL included) living in pretty shitty conditions. And not because of some grandiose moral notion of kindness, but because not being able to access that compassion makes every single moment of the process strained, draining, and just all around awful for yourself and everyone involved. It sounds like she may have lasting effects from her stroke (judgment issues, memory issues, etc) and who knows, maybe she has other issues as well. Right? Marriage is full of ups and downs, and you might have forgotten each other as you navigate life. And personally, I think a little sympathy would be more helpful in getting her to think rationally and kindly about the situation than telling her shes being entitled and being a bad person. Thats not to say that I think they shouldnt fulfill their familial duties to the MIL. Stop wanting and do it. My story : . She used to live with us and didnt treat me well. 7) You Have a Dysfunctional Idea Of What a Marriage Should Be. June 18, 2015, 4:50 pm. It could be taking her to get her hair done, helping her clean up after her dog, doing yard work for her, etc. She cant be left alone with a baby, not even holding a baby while the parent walks into the next room. For whatever that is worth. When my husband was two, she gave him weed to try to get him to go to sleep, and saw nothing wrong with being naked around him and allowing other females to be naked around him clear up to his teen years. Imagine how shocking it is to hear some wives say, I hate my husband so much. What could be the reason for this statement, and what can you do? Sell the property if necessary to get out of the situation. One way to stop hating is to forgive them so that you can heal. I feel like we need to try harder to see all sides here. You wont see such a trait when you are courting because he is a good pretender. That one could be real, it almost happened to me once (not while I was pregnant). I dont dispute she needs to change her attitude, but I also understand that the amount of stress shes under is perhaps making it difficult for her to see the situation clearly. Dear Wendy . Ill graduate in a few days and have been applying to jobs that will hopefully hire me shortly after my baby is born so that we wont need any of her finances. From your original comment I wouldnt have known. And I do think there is a contradiction on the part of the LW in accepting support but being unwilling to return it in kind. . I cant believe how willing you are to drop her without any support vs. setting up support from afar. I was also aware that his mother and father split when my husband was around 7 because his mom cheated on him. And honestly if a post stroke victim is living in shitty conditions maybe you can be a little more compassionate? June 18, 2015, 10:02 am. I *DO* appreciate how difficult that has to be for the LW, and I can empathize with that frustration. June 18, 2015, 2:01 pm. am i projecting like a mfer? I for one love and respect my son enough that I would never make him feel guilty for living his life. Dear Wendy Instead, engage in healthy and thoughtful communication to solve the problem. Working with people in this condition is taxing, so I really cant imagine living with them. Why do I feel like I hate my husband? Maybe because he stopped making an effort to look great. Strange, right? It wasnt the red wedding. And not everyone wants to go around sharing their motives with the strangers of the world. What Lies Do to a Marriage? Typical lovers arent just intimate with each other; they are also best friends. How? This is because this attitude of his not only spoils the mood of the people around him but it is also not the same as before. Hiring live in care, or convincing your MIL to move to an assisted living center nearby where she can be taken care of by people who are equipped to do so may be the most benefical to everyone, particularly her. He spends less time at home. Follow along on Facebook, and Instagram. He doesn't work on the relationship. Earlier I was thinking, what does she mean, a promise to take care of his mother? If so, Id say you need to prioritize finding a job for yourself and making some money so that you can get your own place at some point. The very day we got to her house she began accusing us of taking things, and just finding any and every complaint she could find to make. Like I was accusing her of being just mean and ugly to my daughter. I Hate My Husband: The Reasons Why When a couple gets married they imagine that they will be loving and happy during their life. It was only once I started eating more fruit in my adult life that I started liking sweet treats more. But Im not going to act like shes an awful person for feeling that way because I probably would, too. The challenge to my marriage. But who among us isn't? However, it doesnt always work like that. 7. Addie Pray Wow, well I do think this response is pretty harsh. Skyblossom Learn how to date your spouse in marriage in this video clip: Indeed, you are lovers, but that doesnt take away the place of respect. I read it too quickly the first time and thought you wrote Not that I think you have experienced instead of not that I think you have to have experienced It changed the whole tone. If you cant get past why you hate your husband so much, it may be time for you to seek the help of a marriage counselor. And we even asked a contractor about the possibility of putting in an internal door in the future just in case. The stress that would put on me every day. Yes she had a free place to live, but how free was it considering they payed the bills, bought the groceries and more. Talk to your husband about what he means by caring for her. I really think they should move out and rent awhile and find an alternative way to take care of the MIL. That's how the singer-songwriter who died Thursday at the age of 54 referred to her four children, daughters Riley, Finley and Harper . June 18, 2015, 10:57 am. We've been together for 16 years and married 14 years. This situation can make you hate your husband and wish you arent together. Even if youre overwhelmed and exhausted and hormonal and emotionally drained, the answer is still yeah, its wrong to abandon a loved one who needs care (especially when you no longer need anything from him/her) just because its inconvenient. That is for my DH to do since it is his mother. You dont get to complain about the free place youve been crashing in for however many months, no matter how much deep cleaning you had to do to make it livable. If she does in fact have mental health issues, whether or not they are consequent to the stroke, they should be assessed and addressed appropriately, but that doesnt excuse her demanding and entitled behaviour either. M. MiraclesHappenBelieve. Sometimes it is best to evaluate yourself before blaming your husband for how you feel about him. I understand that she must have felt desperate, but shes calling out her MIL for having bad judgment (as a mother and grandmother), when it seems like the LWs judgment is questionable, too. Much of the therapy I do with these particular patients involves forcing them to confront the deficits that they refuse to see in themselves since their strokes. It also means you acknowledge these differences and align with them. Marriage doesnt mean you stopped treating your partner like you used to when you were courting. Is it normal to hate your husband? My parents neglected my emotional needs consistently in favour of my more challenging sister. I screamed to avoid throwing something like my phone at his face, or my fist at the wall. Are you stressed, frustrated, overwhelmed, or confused? And quite frankly, compassion is the best tool in your arsenal when dealing with this type of situation. His dad moved states, and they now have a strained relationship. Never said her solution was good or right. Raccoon eyes Sep 27, 2019 at 1:55 PM. If your husband doesnt care about your opinion or values but only what matters to him, it will cause a rift between you. Skyblossom If a new spouse cannot accept that, in my humble opinion (IMHO as the new generation says), the relationship is doomed. And I wasnt even the primary care giver! I forgot about the honey thing. June 18, 2015, 9:53 am. I am also very sympathetic with the LW. If anything, it sounds like she is starved for contact, whether she knows that or not. Put her in an elderly home already! It could be and really, should be, in your husbands case finding adequate home care or a living environment where his mother will get the physical and medical attention she obviously needs. Now that you are married, you find it challenging to deal with these issues. You might hate your husband when he does something you dont like. Life is unpredictable, and marriage is full of surprises. And it is very easy to assume one can imagine what it takes to care for someone. My point: not all families or bonds are the same.) We made long-term goals together like engagement, marriage, kids, the whole 9. June 18, 2015, 10:39 am. However, a husband attached to his mother at the hip might be more of a problem. It does make me think the FIL has a point about her exaggerating safety issues as an excuse to try to get what she wants. However, my mother-in-law's fault is also to a large extent in all this. Why do I feel like I hate my husband? The harsh truth is that you have a vague and unrealistic idea of marriage. You can completely remove all of the details of the living situation from this letter and theres one thing that still sticks out to me. This article will provide the answers you need. At the very least, youd think if she cared nothing for the MIL, shed have at least cared enough about her 8-year-old daughter (if not herself) to check out the situation before moving in. I was simply upset because my baby was crying. Fair enough. And sometimes ill-prepared panicked people arent model human beings who can clearly assess every situation and respond with the appropriate amount of compassion. I think I would have a really hard time accepting this situation if I were the letter writer. But the tone in my response was inspired and informed by the tone in the letter (which I thought was a lot crueler/ unkind/ unsympathetic than my response and most of the responses Im seeing in the comments), but for what its worth Im glad there are dissenting opinions in the comments and that the LW is getting at least a little range of responses. All rights reserved. But if he was already heading for a discharge I fully agree. . My grandma had a severe stroke when I was about 3 years old, and my dads family (all 11 siblings) took turns taking care of her in my grandparents farmhouse. If your husband is not able to be the caretaker for both the mother and the kids, is there anyone else in the family who can help out? Those arent excuses. Have some compassion and dont treat people like inconveniences when they are helping you out financially. Our first responsibility is ALWAYS to our minor children. Having a selfish husband means being stuck with stunted communication in your marriage. . June 18, 2015, 11:47 am. He refuses even to consider counseling. No matter how busy life is, spouses should dedicate time to each other. TaraMonster I bet if you come home with legal divorce documents and property settlement forms, he'll figure out how to deal with his mother. Well, you need to stop that. But she married her husband and he comes with her mother. He's had the stroke and it's you who is feeling and expressing what you call "bad feelings". We have been together for about 13 years, married for 3. They can force you to question your love and your marriage. Oh, I have no doubt shes overwhelmed. Start by doing the following: The goal is to make your husband understand your feelings and save your marriage. Is this a normal feeling? Someone left the knife on the counter with the blade sticking out. But straight out choosing to abandon MIL and not worry about it isnt right. I walked around the corner into the kitchen and the knife was right there, almost touching me. I think there are plenty of valid reasons grown children might choose to distance themselves from their former parents/ caregivers. Taken time to learn what the MILs issues really were and what kind of care she needed. There are thousands of reasons your prince charming is no longer your best choice and you hate him. He's not perfect but no one is. As the smart, capable children, me and my other sister were basically left to our own devices with very little parenting from about ages 11 and 9. Id say, yeah, she needs to run like hell and find her own place before she burns the place down cause shes walked off and left the stove on with food cooking on it. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action. Why do I hate my husband? If you really can't get on with their family and are no longer on speaking terms, allow your partner to continue their relationship with them on. Its a great solution and if you can find the entire building for sale, its actually often cheaper to purchase than a home that would provide you with the same amount of rooms. @Diablo, I think the comments chiding grown children for not having infinite patience and tolerance for aging parents might hit a nerve for adults who arent as close with their parents or in-laws. something random The temporary hatred you feel often fades once your husband changes or you get what you want. We were on the same page. Youre willing to make the enormous sacrifice of living rent-free with your horrible MIL now, while you cant afford your own place, but as soon you have a job and wont need any of her finances, you will no longer be willing to make any kind of sacrifice when it comes to her and believe your husband should break his promise to take care of her? Its impossible to prepare families for what dealing with a R Hemisphere stroke patient will be like and Ive seen my fair share of long term marriages fall apart when once spouse has this type of stroke. Certain events can jerk us back to reality when you find out your soulmate is flawed and imperfect. Im an not saying she should get the thumbs up to just move out and leave her MIL as is. And maybe it wouldnt be too hard. We pay the majority of the bills, take care of the house, provide the groceries, and drive her to and from her appointments. Once you figure the problem out, it will be easy. Now that she knows this about herself and also knows caring for her ailing mother-in-law is an unbreakable condition for her marriage, she will hopefully look for solutions that work for everyone. Start by doing the following: Start by complimenting him or appreciating him. Keeping a promise and caring for another these things sound great on paper. For those of you who have been raised by loving parents, even in difficult economic circumstances, this must seem like a no-brainer, a challenge but a sacrifice that any moral person should be willing to make. No biggie. June 18, 2015, 11:21 am. Also, they offer proven methods that will save your marriage. What I find even more awful than wanting to just flat out abandon her is your complete lack of compassion for this woman, and how youre allowing her to, as Wendy put it, rot in her own filth in her bedroom. 3 Detrimental Effects of Lack of Communication in Marriage, Marriage Is Not About Your Happiness but Is About Compromise, The Importance of Date Night in a Marriage and Tips to Make It Happen, Indeed, you are lovers, but that doesnt take away the place of respect. The famous statement that, You might hate your husband because of the wrong ideas from. Tolerating what sounds like abusive behaviour from his mother is another. The combination of an elderly MIL recovering from a stroke, a husband on disability, a kid and another on the way, AND looking for employment is definitely very difficult. by recognizing they are different from you through their opinions, experiences, and values. Overall, I feel for you. Right now I hate my husband. For what we have (3 bedrooms, 1 bath on one side, 2 bedrooms, 1 bath on the other and a usable but not completely finished basement on both sides that are the size of the upstairs) we would have paid at least twice as much for a house with the same number of rooms (or even fewer). I kept thinking what if you need to be taken care of someday by your husband? Of course its not a good idea to leave knives sitting out, especially with a child in the home but even if she ran right into the blade of a loose knife, it would have just slid over or gotten knocked off the counter. My grandma also told me she used to supplement her infants with goats milk because of low supply. Steven Tyler is accused of sexually assaulting a 16-year-old girl in the '70s: 'Victim's' lawsuit claims she is the 'teen bride' in singer's memoir after he convinced her mom to grant him guardianship And I feel bad that this column is being published right when shes having a baby, but this is when she wrote to me. Know that youre not alone in this struggle, there are support groups for family members of stroke victims (try an internet search) It might be worth checking them out to get ideas from others in your situation about what they have done for care of their relatives when problem solving deficits are leading to unsafe living conditions. So maybe instead of being a jerk shes ill-prepared and panicked. On top of all that, she has a bad memory and the worst judgment and I dont want my daughter or newborn to be around her. She needs professional care. Not sure what youre talking about. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. It sounds like the son wants to collect her money and provide the care himself. She was conscious and present, but she physically had difficulty even just doing that. I agree that it is too much to handle, but her solution isnt the right one. 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